Lambda Literary Award finalist
The celebrated essayist sheds necessary (and humorous) light on gender, sexuality, and family.
S. Bear Bergman is an acclaimed writer and lecturer who travels regularly across North America to speak on trans issues. Bear's first two books, Butch Is a Noun and The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You, are considered essential texts on the subject of trans life. In his third essay collection, Bear enters, describes, and rearranges our ideas about family as a daughter, husband, father, and friend. In Bear's extended family "orchard," drag sisters, sperm-donor's parents, Sparkles and other relations provide more branches of love, support, and sustenance than a simple family tree.
Defiantly queer yet full of tenderness and hilarity, Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter is a beautifully thought-provoking book that redefines the notion of what family is and can be.
Bear is also co-author of Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation and author of the groundbreaking trans-positive children's books Backwards Day and The Adventures of Tulip, Birthday Wish Fairy.
I have read so many books, but none so much as Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter have made me feel less alone.
S. Bear Bergman's Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter is, like his son's Hebrew name, Menachem, a comfort. These are essays about the real modern families
? the ones we forge through devotion and intent. Bergman is all wisdom, honesty, and heart, proudly showing readers the constellation of intimacy he and his husband have created both as individuals and as a couple.
?Roxane Gay, author of Ayiti
A fantastic collection of essays offering a fresh perspective on family life for all parents, LGBTQ or otherwise.
?For Books' Sake
Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter is a brilliant example of Bear's tremendous storytelling ability coming head-to-head with his love for educating the public on all things relating to gender, sexuality and culture.
S. Bear Bergman is a first-rate storyteller, and this is his finest book to date. This heartwarming book is the first of its kind: a father/son love story in a family with one incredible kid and two queer, polyamorous, trans dads. Chapter by chapter, Bergman answered any question I had (and many questions I'd never considered) about the sociology of the ever-present radical normalcy in postmodern nuclear family life, and the tragicomedy of chosen family, deep in the heart of LGBT queerdom. Be prepared to laugh, cry, and gasp out loud. I sure did.
?Kate Bornstein, author of My New Gender Workbook
A worthy contribution to the growing body of work on GLBT parenting.
?Gay and Lesbian Review
Bergman has crafted a well-wrought book of essays on parenting, non-traditional families, healing from old wounds, and intimacy that very nearly brought me to tears on several occasions ... The book rings true and clear in a modern queer world.
The tone is smart and chatty ... To many, these essays will be a comfort, but while that comfort is necessary, it would be a shame if LGBTQ readers were Glitter's sole audience. For many more -- perhaps those who puzzle over how two trans dads could give birth to a baby (as Bergman and his partner did) -- this book presents a much-needed education.
?The Globe and Mail
Witty, wise, and accessible, the book provides clear answers to anyone who has asked trans people pointed questions about parentage and gender without realizing the painful implications ... In its unflinching, raw authenticity, Bergman's memoir speaks to the shared truths of intimacy in broad human connections, offering a salient cultural intervention while remaining an "everyfamily" tale.
?Quill and Quire
S. Bear Bergman writes tenderly and thoughtfully about the many many ways family creates us — and breaks us — for which we have few words. Yes, in some ways I love this book just because there are ways in which it's my own personal family album. But I love it even more for the ways in which it is yours, and everyone's.
?Hanne Blank, author of Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality
A memoir that confronts all sorts of difficult ideas about family and love, exploding preconceived notions and embarking on redefinitions.
?Stacey May Fowles, National Post
This is an instructive and delightful meditation on the ways in which we love and connect — it's about family, about kin, about bonds created, crafted, stitched and grown. Bergman's writing overflows with heart, soul, brains and wit; everybody needs to read this book.
?Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, author of Surprised By God: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Religion
Written in a unique and refreshing voice, S. Bear Bergman's third collection of essays again mines his experience as a trans man but focuses on how he and his community are changing the family.