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Navigating the Messy Middle

A Fiercely Honest and Wildly Encouraging Guide for Midlife Women

by (author) Ann Douglas

Publisher
Douglas & McIntyre
Initial publish date
Oct 2022
Category
Women's Health, Women's Studies, Motivational & Inspirational
  • Paperback / softback

    ISBN
    9781771623438
    Publish Date
    Oct 2022
    List Price
    $28.95
  • eBook

    ISBN
    9781771623445
    Publish Date
    Oct 2022
    List Price
    $19.99

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Roughly 68 million North American women currently grapple with the challenges of midlife, faced with a culture that tells them their “best-before date” has long passed. In Navigating the Messy Middle, Ann Douglas pushes back against this toxic narrative, providing a fierce and unapologetic book for and about midlife women.

In this deeply validating and encouraging book, Douglas interviews well over one hundred women of different backgrounds and identities, sharing their diverse conversations about the complex and intertwined issues that women must grapple with at midlife: from family responsibilities to career pivots, health concerns to building community. Readers will find a book that offers practical, evidence-based strategies for thriving at midlife, coupled with compelling first-person stories.

Offering purpose and meaning in a life stage that can otherwise feel out of control, Douglas pushes back against the message that women at midlife are no longer relevant and needed, highlighting the far-reaching economic, political and social impacts of these messages and providing a refreshing counter-narrative that maps out a path forward for women at midlife.

Both a midlife love letter and a lament, Navigating the Messy Middle both celebrates the beauty and rages at the many injustices of this life stage and provides readers with the tools to chart their own course.

About the author

Ann Douglas is an award-winning journalist and the author of 28 books including The Mother Of All Pregnancy Books. Ann's various books are also available -- or forthcoming -- in China, Russia, Greece, Indonesia, and Finland. A parent educator and mother of four, Ann is also the co-author (with John R. Sussman, M.D.) of two other highly popular pregnancy books: The Unofficial Guide to Having a Baby and Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss. Known for her lively anecdotes and real-world advice, Ann has also been a regular contributor to WebMD.com, PregnancyandBaby.com and Yahoo! Canada. Ann writes regular columns for Conceive Magazine, Living Spree, Urban Baby and Toddler, City Parent and What's Up Kids?. She has also written for such publications as Today's Parent, Chatelaine, Canadian Living, and The Globe and Mail. She makes frequent appearances on both radio and television and is regularly quoted in such publications as Parenting, Parents, Fit Pregnancy, American Baby, and Working Mother. Ann lives in Peterborough, Ontario, with her husband and four children. Visit www.having-a-baby.com or www.anndouglas.ca.

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Editorial Reviews

“I have appreciated Ann Douglas’ insights on parenting for many years. She is kind, honest and clear-eyed, and much less patronizing than other relationships writers. She puts these skills to great use in Navigating the Messy Middle, which comes at a perfect time for me, as I try to evolve into the next stage of my life. The book shows middle-aged women that we’re not alone, while encouraging us to prioritize what makes our unique selves satisfied and happy.”

Denise Balkissoon, Ontario bureau chief, The Narwhal and former executive editor, <i>Chatelaine</i>

“This book tackles the complex and often misunderstood topic of women’s lived experience of mid-life, with insights from interviews with more than one hundred women. In these pages, the reader is invited into a cornucopia of women’s stories, challenging the invisibility often associated with this stage of life, and ultimately drawing us towards a collective reimagining of the female life cycle.”

Molly Andrews, co-director, Association for Narrative Research and Practice

“In Navigating the Messy Middle, Ann Douglas challenges the prevailing narrative that women in midlife are a product past their prime. Combatting this culturally prescribed march toward invisibility, Douglas centres a diversity of women who, through sharing their stories, weave a broader, kinder, more accurate, and more inclusive narrative that is ripe with the realities, possibilities, complexities and contradictions experienced by women in midlife.”

Kathryn Adams-Sloan, chair of the Women’s Caucus to the Canadian Association for Social Work Education

“In this comprehensive overview of mid-life, Ann Douglas weaves a powerful tapestry of narratives, rich with the colours of many voices. The result is a precious gift for women feeling lost, desperate, or alone in midlife, since Douglas reveals, vibrantly, how peril is outweighed by potential and that midlife can be a “journey of becoming.” This is an important and much-needed book.”

Beth Powning, author of <i>Edge Seasons: A Midlife Year</i>

“If you’re a woman facing the beautiful, messy, occasionally harsh realities of mid-life, this book is for you. It offers a candid exploration of what it means to be a middle-aged woman in modern western society, a role which sees us at once indispensable and ignored. It’s an eye-opening read.”

Catherine Clark, co-founder, The Honest Talk

“Applying surgical myth-busting to harmful narratives that disappear middle aged women, Ann Douglas takes us on a life-affirming journey. Reading it has been a bit of an emotional journey. I think most women will have the same reaction - feeling seen, validated and celebrated!”

Kelly Carmichael, former executive director, Fair Vote Canada

“The best thing about Ann Douglas’s perspective, as always, is her understanding that one-size-fits-all advice fits no one. Instead, in Navigating the Messy Middle, readers will discover an empowering guide to finding one’s own way through the ups and downs of midlife, a time when seeking strength in connection, embracing the changeability of the physical self, and focusing on one’s real values and priorities can create a powerful moment of (finally!) becoming.”

Kerry Clare, author of <i>Waiting for a Star to Fall</i>

“...a brilliant overview for the tens of millions of women who qualify as being in their ‘midlife’...Douglas wrote many of the parenting books I turned to years ago, and I remember quoting her often for the now-defunct Parenting magazine, so I’m thrilled that she’ll now help me through this next phase of life.”

Jessica Hartshorn 10 Must-Read Books About Menopause, <i>Perimenopause – SheKnows</i>

“This is the midlife book we’ve been missing! Ann Douglas demystifies midlife and launches a conversation with inclusion, justice, compassion and honesty at its core. Navigating the Messy Middle will be well-loved, dogeared, underlined, and passed from friend to friend. It will encourage continued conversations between women who, after reading this book, will know for sure that they aren’t alone.”

Sara Smeaton, midlife coach

“Our culture paints a vague yet bleak picture of menopause, and the result is a population of women who see their first hot flash as the beginning of the end. But midlife is about more than menopause. It’s nuanced and multifaceted, and where there can sometimes be misery, there can also be magic, as Ann Douglas illustrates persuasively in her new book, Navigating the Messy Middle. Written clearly and compellingly with a mix of science-backed information and real-life stories, Navigating the Messy Middle will inevitably find a wide, appreciative audience. Reading it made me feel seen, understood and empowered, and my anxiety about this period in my life has been replaced by curiosity and optimism. If you buy one book about midlife, make it this one.”

Kim Shiffman, editor-in-chief, <i>Today's Parent</i>

“If we’re lucky, we all occasionally have one of those evenings with friends where we vent about everything rattling around in our brains and lives, and realize that the answer to the question “Is it just me?” is a resounding no. This book is one of those evenings between two covers, delivered with Douglas’s signature wisdom, perspective, warmth and wit.”

Shannon Proudfoot, former Ottawa bureau chief, Maclean’s

“In Navigating the Messy Middle, Ann Douglas gives us the context, the compassion and the courage needed to understand the challenges, gifts and opportunities that midlife presents. It reads like both a manifesto and a heart-to-heart with your closest friends.”

Brandie Weikle, editor and publisher, <i>thenewfamily.com</i>

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