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Lady Secrets

Real, Raw, and Ridiculous Confessions of Womanhood

by (author) Keltie Knight, Jac Vanek & Becca Tobin

Initial publish date
Sep 2022
Self-Esteem, Happiness, Relationships
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    Sep 2022
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The New York Times bestselling authors of Act Like a Lady and hosts of the LadyGang podcast share their deepest, darkest, most hilarious secrets—along with confessions submitted by real LadyGang fans—in this laugh-out-loud, cringe-worthy, weirdly inspiring celebration of un-ladylike behavior.

“So many of us have this hidden shame floating around our brains with no way to let it out without being judged, and that shit weighs us down.”

Every lady has a secret. A secret so humiliating, embarrassing, scandalous, or disgraceful that you haven’t told a soul—not your closest friends, family, lovers, or doctors. There is so much shame surrounding hiding secrets, and, frankly, enough is enough.

The truth is, there is power and freedom in releasing those dirty little secrets out into the big, bad universe. It gives you that same sweet relief as taking off an underwire bra at the end of a long, crappy day. That’s why Keltie Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jac Vanek—hosts of the LadyGang podcast—set their secrets free: the good, the bad, and the diarrhea. The LadyGang wanted to offer their large and loyal community a chance to join them in exposing the messy truths of their lives, and so, Lady Secrets was born: confessional essays from the trio themselves and an incredible crowdsourced collection of secrets from other ladies around the world. Secrets ranging from silly little white lies to cringey misadventures to soul-baring truths. And as it turns out, exposing your deepest and darkest helps you realize that we are all way more alike than we could have ever imagined.

Everyone seems to have a bizarre body malfunction, a hookup gone terribly wrong, and a soul-crushing experience that haunts them forever. And maybe that elaborate revenge plot you carried out against your cheating ex was actually kind of badass (in spite of being slightly illegal). It’s time we stop feeling ashamed of our (un)ladylike habits and own the real, raw, and ridiculous things that make you authentically you.

About the authors

Contributor Notes

Keltie Knight is an Emmy Award-winning television personality and a host on CBS’s Entertainment Tonight. She's appeared on Project Runway and The Talk and as a moderator for Vanity Fair.

Becca Tobin is an actress, singer, dancer, and host who starred in the role of Kitty on Fox Television's acclaimed show Glee. She has also starred in several Hallmark movies. After graduating from the American Musical and Dramatic Academy, she was in Broadway’s Rock of Ages and toured with the Trans-Siberian Orchestra.

Jac Vanek is a self-made entrepreneur, CEO, and one of the most powerful fashion and music influencers of her generation. Her unconventional Jac Vanek brand continues to defy boundaries of the fashion industry, and her sassy graphics and slogans are widely worn by celebrities.

Excerpt: Lady Secrets: Real, Raw, and Ridiculous Confessions of Womanhood (by (author) Keltie Knight, Jac Vanek & Becca Tobin)

A Lady Never Tells

Every Lady has a secret. An experience or an encounter so disgraceful, so embarrassing, so shameful, or so f***ed up that we wouldn’t dare tell a single soul. Well, until now.

The truth is, we all do some disgusting, scandalous, heartbreaking, or generally ill-advised things when no one is watching. The humiliation of our darkest behaviors, the hilarity of our grossest moments, the torment of our most raw memories— these all become our secrets. Secrets we hold deep inside and refuse to even tell our closest friends, families, lovers, or doctors. But as they say: The truth will set you free.

Over the years, the three of us have released many of our own mortifying stories into the universe on the LadyGang podcast and in our first book, Act Like a Lady. And with every secret we shed, we felt like we were doing a small service to ourselves and ladyhood in general. By sharing the not-so-pretty truths of our lives, we felt like we were dropping the mask of perfection society forces upon us—pulling back the curtain and leveling the playing field for ladies everywhere and saying, “Enough is enough!”

For some insane reason, society has imposed on women a false standard in which it feels shameful to show the struggles of figuring out womanhood, and because of this, we always make ourselves appear more pulled together, smart, and stylish than we actually are. On top of that, we are all competing in the “Lady Olympics,” and we worry that admitting that we acted selfishly, broke the rules, or f***ed our brother-in-law in Cuba might take us down a notch in the eyes of all of the judgmental pricks out there. Women are not allowed to be messy. We are supposed to be polished and obedient and accommodating, right? We’ve become so damn afraid of drawing outside of the lines that we keep even the most innocuous secrets deep in our personal vaults.

Our goal with this book is to embrace the power of our genuine selves by owning our *un*ladylike truth. Men get to brag to their friends about their inappropriate behaviors—they wear their sinful stories like a badge of honor, and society in general tends to shrug it off or enable their reckless behavior. (Boys will be boys, right?) But women? We carry around a lot more shame about our behaviors than men do and tend to hide our secrets out of fear of being labeled imperfect. Because society expects us, as women, to do it all. We’re supposed to have a career, change the diapers, clean the kitchen, and impress others with a smile on our face and our tits up to our shoulders. God forbid we lose something up our vaginas and have to go to the emergency room! The double standard for the expected behaviors for men and women is unfair and straight-up misogynistic, and, quite frankly, we’re f***in’ sick of it.

Don’t you feel this sense of deep relief when you hear another lady share some juicy, behind-the-scenes blooper from her life? We know we do. It makes us feel less alone, less ashamed, and more human. And we wanted to give that priceless gift to our LadyGang community and fellow ladies around the world.

So we created Lady Secrets.

Not only do we reveal many of our deepest, darkest secrets in this book, but we have also gone above and beyond. Even though our Gang is a collective of the most wonderful, wise, incredible women, we knew that each of you bitches was hiding something— just like us! So, we launched a submission website and hotline, 1-844-SXY-LADY, which gives others the opportunity to join in shedding the shame and embrace the power of revealing their truths. The secrets immediately started flooding in. Lady Secrets became a space for our ladies to expose their dustiest skeletons and free themselves from the guilt that weighed them down. And the result? A dynamic collection of essays, short stories, unsolicited advice, and lessons learned the hard way. We’re exploring universal truths that will make you shudder: white lies turned lifelong cons, weird things our bodies do, messy sex lives, and juicy celebrity encounters, while also shining a light on the gut-wrenching secrets about motherhood, relationships, death, revenge, and depression.

This is our collective truth, and we hope it inspires you to embrace yours as well. Lady life is exciting and beautiful and scary and rewarding and grueling and sketchy and agonizing and smelly. And we’re here to share it all: the good, the bad, and the diarrhea. So, to every Lady who submitted a hilariously disturbing tale or left us a ridiculous voicemail, we congratulate you on your courage. From getting a fly stuck up your vagina to straight-up hating being a mother, your secrets made us laugh, cry, and cringe deep in our souls.

A note: Submissions to the book have been edited for clarity and length. (If you pooped in a barbecue grill for revenge and submitted your story, but it doesn’t sound exactly the same, trust us, it’s your poop. Thanks for understanding!)

We hope Lady Secrets leaves you feeling a little less worried about your awkward memories, a little less ashamed of your *un*ladylike habits, and a little less alone. Because, we think we can all agree, stumbling through womanhood is a lot easier when you know everyone else is stumbling alongside you.

Editorial Reviews

“Buoyed by the authors’ bubbly candor and animated personalities . . . this entertains from cover to cover. The result makes for a rollicking and at times heartbreaking compendium of secrets.”—Publishers Weekly

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