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published: Apr 2014

How Should a Person Be?

by Sheila Heti

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list price: $19.95
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published: Apr 2014

A brilliant portrayal of finding a beautiful life by one of Canada's most exciting literary talents, now available as an Anansi Book Club edition featuring discussion questions.

How Should a Person Be? is an unabashedly honest and hilarious tour through the unknowable pieces of one woman’s heart and mind, an irresistible torn-from-life book about friendship, art, sex, and love. Part literary novel, part self-help manual, and part racy confessional, it is a fearless exploration into the way we live now by one of the most highly inventive and thoughtful young writers working today.

Contributor Notes

SHEILA HETI is the author of eight books of fiction and nonfiction, including the novels Ticknor, How Should a Person Be?, and Motherhood, a finalist for the Scotiabank Giller Prize. Her writing has appeared in various publications, including the New York Times, London Review of Books, Globe and Mail, n+1, McSweeney’s, and Believer. She was named one of “The New Vanguard” by the New York Times book critics; a list of fifteen women writers from around the world who are “shaping the way we read and write fiction in the twenty-first century.” Her books have been translated into twenty-two languages.

  • Long-listed, Women's Prize for Fiction
  • Commended, New York Times Notable Books
  • Commended, Huffington Post Best Books
  • Long-listed, ReLit Awards: Novel
Editorial Reviews

...an unforgettable book: intellectually exacting, unsettling in its fragility, bodily as anything painted by Freud, experimental yet crafted as hell, and yes, very funny.

— National Post

This is a novel that abounds with [...] wisdom, arrived at in fresh and new ways. For all its inventiveness, there is an old-fashioned integrity, an attention to thought in the prose, resulting in unusual and sharp-eyed observations . . . we are treated to some truly profound ruminations on what it means to be an artist in our indifferent era.

— Literary Review of Canada

An engaging mashup of memoir, fiction and philosophy... It doesn't answer the question, how should a person be? But it does find an engaging new way of asking it.

— Guardian

...a self-conscious, darkly funny exploration of the strained complexities of female friendship, the makings of bad art, and the finer points of awkward sex...[Heti] celebrates the extraordinary imperfection in ordinary life.

— The Georgia Straight

... what Heti’s brain and fingertips offer are expanded possibilities for what the novel can be and can become ... How Should a Person Be? makes curious and combative company.

— Globe and Mail

…there is something in her story that will resonate with every reader, as Heti's honest rendition of some of life's most humbling truths challenges the novel as we know it.

— Memphis Flyer

How Should a Person Be? is a question to be revisited by the author herself, or another writer, or many other writers - but it's also the question novels were invented to respond to.

— London Review of Books

Sheila Heti's vaguely autobiographical new novel might make her the Joan Didion of the 'Girls' generation.

— Salon

Ms. Heti's deadpan, naked voice is what makes Sheila's journey so engaging... throughout, the reader is beguiled by blunt, sly observations. It is easy to see why a book on the anxiety of celebrity has turned the author into one herself.

— Economist

... vital and funny ...

— New Yorker

From pithy quotables ('Night fell, but then, there are always holes to fall into,') to the oddly profound ('If now in some ways I drink too much, it's not that I lack a reverence for the world'), this is a novel that rewards reading, sitting with, and rereading.

— Quarterly Conversation

... one of the bravest, strangest, most original novels I’ve read this year.

— Boston Globe

Heti is ... capable of arresting sentences that feel utterly now...

— UK Metro

[Heti's] lack of self-censorship [gives] the prose an irrefutable force.

— The Independent

[I'm] in awe of this new Toronto writer who seems to be channeling Henry Miller one minute and Joan Didion the next.


How Should a Person Be? reveals a talented young voice of a still inchoate generation.

— Wall Street Journal

[Sheila Heti is] a brilliant, original thinker and an engaging writer.

— Los Angeles Review of Books

...the good kind of genre muddle...How Should a Person Be? emerges as part of an entirely different genre: the realistic self-help book. You might not want to follow in Sheila's footsteps, but tagging along on her quixotic mission will be as useful as anything else you're likely to read this year.

— Vue

... sharp, witty ...

— Jewish Chronicle Online

Part confessional, part play, part novel, and more -- it's one wild ride. The upfront and unabashed sex makes for a voyeuristic, sometimes hilarious, read. Think HBO's Girls in book form.

— Marie Claire

...a portrait of the artist as a young woman, a postmodern self-help book and an autobiography of the mind.

— Vancouver Sun

This is a novel that wonders if the ugly can be beautiful, if there is clarity to be found in the drifting.


... brilliant, forthright and sometimes very funny ...

— The National

Heti does have a wicked sense of humour and some of her one-liners are genuinely laugh out loud.

— Daily Mail

... boldly original ... [Heti] writes cinematically, but with the cockeyed emotional realism of filmmakers like Miranda July and Lena Dunham.


[Heti's] book has a freshness and verve that make you wonder where she will go next.

— Irish Times

Original, contemplative, and often tangential, this is an unorthodox compilation of colorful characters, friendship, and sex that provides an unusual answer to Heti’s question.

— Publishers Weekly

... bound to be quoted over and over ... Sheila Heti does know something about how many of us, right now, experience the world, and she has gotten that knowledge down on paper, in a form unlike any other novel I can think of.

— New York Times

Heti flails out in all directions, employing a winsome flexibility and an underlying sadness that deflates any pretension and focuses on the big questions of life. The exuberance of youth is shot through with magic threads of wisdom.

— Edmonton Journal

... a Joycean experiment ...

— Telegraph

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Heidi Schiller
Librarian review

Sex, drugs and Party Dresses

How Should a Person Be is not for everyone. Heti’s experimental and provocative novel will resonate as a dimensional, funny and honest look at identity, art and friendship. Recommended for those who like their post-modern existential identity crisis novels couched in sex, drugs and party dresses.

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